Women want it all…. but can we?
I know the struggle all too well of having to choose between a work/business demand or my kids/family. It’s a frustrating task because both are important but most times you are forced to make a choice that may leave you feeling like a failure no matter what you choose. As women in the workplace or business world we struggle to find equality with our male counterparts and even among ourselves. Women without kids may have an easier time getting a promotion as opposed to those with kids. I once had a lady at one of my workshops share a similar story. She was bypassed for a promotion that she was clearly in line to get, when she questioned her superior he actually admitted that yes she was next in line but because her kids were so young he felt she couldn’t handle the position.These are the type of struggles professional women who also balance families have to endure everyday.
These situations are not unique to just Trinidad and Tobago they happen all around the world. In a study done by , Megan Dalla-Camina author of Getting Real About Having It All she surveyed 1,000 American women professionals about their well-being.
The results: While women are making great progress on the career front, 70% believe the concept of success at both home and work is a myth.
According to Dalla-Camina’s survey: 70% of woman are struggling with well-being
40% say they are “hanging on by a thread”
Encouragingly, 30% feel they have all of the things they need and want
But sadly, only 16% are very satisfied with their lives overall
66% would like a better career, but 47% would like more time to themselves.
In one word, women in careers are conflicted.
In a phone interview with Dalla-Camina she said that “More than 55% of women continue to have an issue with doing what’s best for themselves and provide favors and service for others first, even when it’s not in their best interest,” she said.
“They report a feeling of being on a treadmill and running so fast they’re scared to look to the left or the right, so they just keep running.”
2. Using your values plan your vision for your life. You get to decide how you envision your life and actively design it based on your vision. We all know the popular Proverb 29:18 ‘Where there is no vision, the people perish’ I was talking to a young lady just before I wrote this and she basically had no words to describe herself because she lost herself in her career, family life and everyday hustle of life. We literally ‘perish’ and kill our true selves when we don’t consciously have a vision for our lives and react to life rather than design it.
3. Take time for self care every day. Even in the midst of all the chaos find time no matter how small to do something that is just for YOU. It really doesn’t matter how small it is just the act in itself helps keeps you balanced and focused on the most important person in your life….YOU.